Mentors & Partners Group in Private Mentoring
Mentors & Partners Group’s mentoring practice started in the personal life field and has been an essential element of our development programmes ever since. All of MPG’s past and future developments are aimed at helping individuals live their most successful and happy lives and fulfil their maximum potential. The history of MPG began in private mentoring, where a given businessperson, sports professional, or educational leader needed to become more successful. MPG believes that whether it is in business, sport, education, or indeed any area of life, if people are successful as individuals and strive for continuous improvement, then the communities they create, be them small companies, sports teams, or multinational firms, will also become more dynamic. We find that this view is understood and applied by a growing proportion of people as time goes on. This is one of the reasons why MPG’s private life-focused practice has moved beyond private mentoring into a new dimension, where the focus is on children, parents, and family. While the traditional mentoring of first decision-makers has been successfully carried out for 21 years, the “family analysis” area was developed in 2012, with the main objective of assessing the relationships within the family. It provides an in-depth analysis of the family members, defining them as a “team”, and presents the family’s key challenges, significant untapped potential and opportunities for development. The “family analysis” focuses on each individual, each relationship within the family, and the family as a whole. Family analysis work can provide parents with considerable support to become better educators, to better understand their children, and also offer clear help to family members during crises. Capacity is limited in this field, with a maximum of 150 complex family analyses per year, and we have reached that upper limit every year. The 1,000+ family analyses carried out so far have received considerable feedback, not only from parents but also from professionals. Demand and capacity have steadily increased since 2020.
The Private Mentor
A private mentor is the combination of a direct advisor and a coach. The role combines the advantages of these two traditional areas, both in terms of mental development and solving specific challenges with the mentee, providing them with real-life training. Miklós Palencsár, the leading private mentor of Mentors & Partners Group, has earned the “Business Coaching Leader – Europe” award by CEO Today in 2021 and was also selected as one of the 15 “Most Inspiring Leaders” in the world in 2022. His “oldest” private mentoring relationship is 21 years old, and his mentored clients include female and male business leaders, national team captains, head coaches, academy leaders, heads of educational institutions, and elite athletes aged 19-68 from several continents and countries. The role of a private mentor is to empower their mentee to succeed through self-identity, and in doing so, to provide the individual with the happiest version of their life.
You need to be able to evaluate and analyse a family as realistically as you would a team or a company. Of course, the emotional attachments of the family must also be considered, always bearing in mind that the connection is much more intense and its impact on people’s decisions and behaviour is very direct. If we want a happy, balanced family life, we need to put all family members in front of the mirror and face the results. Accepting that family members are different can save us a lot of frustration. The basis for lasting success, whether in business, sport, or personal life, is not to be on good terms with all family members, but to know each family member well and know exactly what to expect from them. And we take note of that. We accept that we cannot change certain things, and that after a certain age, we should not interfere in the life of any family member just because we think they should behave differently. All the genuinely happy people – not those who just think they are happy, but those who actually experience happiness every day – have passed this family test. Have any startling new facts come to light? Not really, because a clever person, if they think about it, can describe the personality traits of their family members quite accurately. Was it shocking to see all this information about the family in one go? Shocking indeed! It is shocking to see, for example, that a mother is a selfish type, because she is, let us say, an “Individual” personality-wise? She always has been. It is shocking to realise that she always calls me when she wants something. Does she love you? She does! Are they a bad person? No. Can they do damage to their children’s self-esteem and future partnerships? Of course they can! And we have only mentioned one of the most painful points. On the other hand, when confronted with this fact, such a mother can be an incredible driving force in the lives of her children when they are adults, because she is creative, she is a good problem-solver, and I don’t want to go on listing the positives, I think everyone understands where I am going with this. Let us also learn to appreciate the family objectively, so that we can then subjectively adore each and every one of its members. But the worst possible solution to this is the use of traditional, narrow-minded theories. Let us give the family member a chance to be loved for who they are, and not to be loved because of how they conform to society’s expectations. Because no personality type is better or worse than any other, but clever people pay attention to differences among others.
The role of family analysis is to honestly assess family members individually and then, looking at individuals as a team, identify relationships, conflicts, challenges, and opportunities within the family. The family analysis provides a clear picture of the relationship between family members, the decision-making mechanisms of the family, and concrete answers to the issues and problems that the family is facing.